The Heart of What Matters
When we start working together, I’ll ask you questions to get to the heart of what matters to you. Here are my answers to a few questions I like to ask my clients.
Do you dip your toes in the water…or dive into the deep end?
I’m the toes in first type. But once I’m in, I’m all in.
I’m an observer; I notice things. Small things that other people might gloss over. It’s why photography is my creative passion. It’s what makes me a quality coach. I’m a thinker and an excellent listener – thoughtful about what I give my attention to and how I respond.
What I enjoyed most about my previous career at a public library was people feeling welcome to come to my office and share their stories with me.
I have deep reserves of optimism and resilience. For example, at 30, when work and life were coming together for me, I was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes. The future seemed scary for quite awhile. It was daunting in the beginning because there were many adjustments to be made both in managing diabetes and my mindset. I went to counselling. I learned coping techniques, and began looking forward to the future again.
Managing diabetes is about discipline, timing, consistency, and keeping a healthy mindset. The same qualities necessary to adapt to any kind of change and find enjoyment even amidst difficult circumstances.
Are you as resilient as you’d like to be?
What’s your passion?
Travelling is a passion. The logistics of planning a road trip, international travel, or a bear watching trip while also managing diabetes away from home means I’m skilled at seeing the big picture and then working out the small details.
I know how to look for potential problems, adapt on the fly and see opportunities instead of roadblocks.
Having a passion (or several) reduces stress, engages your heart and mind, stimulates curiosity and encourages creativity. Your passion doesn’t need to be your career. However, the benefits of having something in your life that you truly enjoy doing has a positive impact on your work life.
Do you ever feel like you’re treading water?
During the last few years of my previous career, I felt like I was treading water. I was putting in the effort and doing the best I could. However, I didn’t feel like I was going where I wanted to go. I began to feel out of sorts with the work that was expected in my role. I felt exhausted and stressed, but there were also friendships and inspiration to be found in working for an organization that serves the community.
There were new challenges and new opportunities put in my my path, so I kept on treading water, and eventually became quite skilled at it. That made it harder to move on, even though I knew it wasn’t where I wanted to be. My work provided a comfortable life, but I knew I was capable of something more.
The Bargaining Phase
Maybe you can tell I was bargaining with myself a lot. Thoughts like, “It’s not so bad; I should feel lucky to have a good job.” “I have friends here.” “I belong here.” Perhaps you say the same things to yourself, even though you know you are capable of more.
I was determined to figure out what kind of contribution I wanted to make for the second half of my life and career. This was when the inner, tiny sparks of possibility began to emerge and I started to get to the heart of what matters to me.
So, the great thing about treading water at that time? It was a safe place to be while I made a plan. It made me stronger and more resolute, and I started to believe I could handle anything. My resolve only deepened over time.
Once you know what you are capable of, and really get to the heart of what matters to you, everything around you starts to look different.
I was still treading water, but it was now with purpose and focus, and a plan to move forward.
What are you determined to do?
Always be yourself and have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and try to duplicate it.
There is room for everyone to be who they are.
It doesn’t matter whether you dive into the deep end of the pool or dip your toes in at the shallow end. Whether you are the person who lights up a room when you walk in or if you enter quietly and take it all in. A go-getter or someone who takes the scenic route. Maybe you think of yourself as someone in between.
Getting to the heart of what matters to you helps you change how you think of yourself. You’ll discover the inner resources you have to draw on to enjoy your life and work.
I’ll help you appreciate who you are, help you define what matters to you, and help you figure out what works for you.
When you know you can manage anything that comes your way, you will be challenged to go beyond what you think you are capable of achieving. That’s how you reach your goals, make your passion come to life, and make a positive impact on the world around you. That’s my approach as a Personal Development Coach.