“You are the sky. Everything else – it’s just the weather.”
What’s Your Personal Mantra?
Do you have a personal mantra you repeat to yourself when you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed?
Mantras are repetitive sounds and vibrations that help you enter a deep state of meditation and awareness. In my experience, any combination of words, sounds or phrases that are meaningful and hold power can become your personal mantra as long they help you restore calmness and focus.
Whether you repeat it out loud or in your mind, here’s why it’s a great idea to have a personal mantra:
- Calms your mind
- Focuses your mind
- Brings you back to the present moment
- Creates a positive intention
- Is an act of self-compassion
- Is always available to you
Helps to Set Boundaries & Manage Expectations
Pema Chödrön’s words became my personal mantra when I was going through a stressful time in my previous career. In particular, they held power for me because they reminded me of what I was responsible for and what I was not, and what I could control and what I could not (as the cause of my stress was multiple demands from all directions).
The things I needed to remind myself the most about were setting boundaries and managing expectations – difficult to do when you’re a middle manager or supervisor! So, I would close my office door or go outside on a break if I could and repeat the phrase to myself. First, it immediately calmed me and I took a few deep breaths. Then, I could start to focus again and figure out what I needed to respond to first.
It made me feel more in control and that made a world of difference to my well-being at work.
Personal Mantra: Powerful, Meaningful
What quotes or phrases hold power for you?
That’s a good place to start to come up with own personal mantra. Then get specific about the situations or people that cause the most stress to your peace of mind. Creating a connection with what what stresses you out or pushes your buttons to your mantra can help you feel more relaxed and in control.
You can make it even more personal and meaningful by writing your own statement or combination of words and sounds that make you feel calm and focused.
Then test it out. You’ll know if it’s working! If it’s not working – find a new one! There is no right or wrong way to do it, it just has to work for you.
And When You Really, Desperately Need to Get Out of Your Own Head, A Good Laugh Helps, Too!
Watch this (language warning, in case that bothers you)…
(the pic is from Haleakalā National Park, Maui, March 2015 – talk about feeling on top of the world!)
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